This topic has been rattling around in my brain for quite a long time and I'm FINALLY writing about it.
Men vs. Women....Lovers vs. Friends....Homies vs. Cut Buddies.....All of these titles come with positive and negative connotations, but the age old question really is:
Is it really possible for men and women to be STRICTLY friends?????
I'm always reminded of movies like "Brown Sugar" or "Love and Basketball" when I think about this topic. Two friends, one male/one female, going through life together, supporting each other, ignoring the underlying sexual tension and then finally realizing they're meant to be with each other! Granted, Hollywood depictions of these situations are always dramatized or end predictably happy; there are still real life occurrences of this relationship.
This type of relationship is one I've dealt with for as long as I can remember. Ever since I knew men existed, I've had male friends. LOTS of male friends.....[whispers] don't go getting the wrong idea about the type of woman I am......I just, for whatever reason, relate to males better than I do with members of my sex and I think there's nothing wrong with that. Here is my problem, conundrum, issue, query, inquisition WHATEVER YOU WANNA CALL IT: Is it possible for you to meet someone of the opposite sex, under particular circumstances, and be friends (FRIENDS ONLY) with him/her?
**particular circumstance: You're out & about. A guy (girl) approaches you, compliments you on how you look, etc. Attempts to set up some sort of dating scenario. You meet up with this person, sparks don't fly for EITHER you OR the other person (meaning only one of the two is interested in more). The uninterested person expresses how they feel, yet still thinks the other is cool peeps and wants to keep in touch....**
In other words your initial meeting with individual is one of attraction, but results in just being friends. You converse with this person as you would with any of your other friends (i.e. asking for advice, checking up on them, supporting them with life decisions, being a shoulder, etc), but because of the circumstances under which you met, can you really consider them just a friend???
