Scenario:
You're talking to a guy/girl. You're really digging each other, converse on a regular basis however nothings been set in stone as far as the depth of your relationship.....You're more than friends, but not an official couple...you like them enough to give them extra attention, however, no commitment....when introduced you just say "this is [insert name here]" vs. giving that person an actual title like "boyfriend/girlfriend"....."wifey/husband"....HELL! even "babydaddy/babymama"!
ok soooooooooooooooo
Question:
Understanding the situation above, is it dirty or trifling to show interest in someone else???? For instance, you like the person you're currently talking to, but because there is no exclusivity betwixt the two of you, someone else catches your eye and you're interested to get to know them as well. Now, I'm not just speaking on terms of attraction because it's quite natural to feel some sort of attraction to different people. I'm talking about "courting" two people at once......
Let me clarify what I'm tryna say 'cause I can already hear the questions & anger filled comments coming! [rolls eyes].....This is not saying you want to have your cake & eat it too [talking to two folks at once, but making each person feel as if "they are the only one"]....We're all adults guys....In my scenario, everyone knows about everyone else...no secrets.
My opinion:
I look at this situation as DATING.....If you & the person you're talking to have not sat down and made an agreement like,
"Look, I like you...You like me. I see myself being with you and really look forward to getting to know you better, but I don't want to rush into a relationship. HOWEVER, with that being said, I want it to be just a 'you & I' situation...not 'you & I + him/her"
then I feel you're free to do whatever it is you want to do AS LONG AS YOU'RE HONEST! Lying brings nothing but hurt feelings. Others unlike me who tend to catch heavy feelings quickly may feel differently. So I'm asking: Is it trifling or is it just the process of narrowing down your options to determine who's the best match for you??
LEMME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK!!!!!!!!!!
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