Trifling?? Yay or Nay.....

Ok! So I'm going to do MY BEST not to make this long and drawn out, but during my daily "ponder session" this conundrum of sorts PIMP SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE!!!! el.O.el.....

Scenario:

You're talking to a guy/girl. You're really digging each other, converse on a regular basis however nothings been set in stone as far as the depth of your relationship.....You're more than friends, but not an official couple...you like them enough to give them extra attention, however, no commitment....when introduced you just say "this is [insert name here]" vs. giving that person an actual title like "boyfriend/girlfriend"....."wifey/husband"....HELL! even "babydaddy/babymama"!  

ok soooooooooooooooo

Question:

Understanding the situation above, is it dirty or trifling to show interest in someone else???? For instance, you like the person you're currently talking to, but because there is no exclusivity betwixt the two of you, someone else catches your eye and you're interested to get to know them as well. Now, I'm not just speaking on terms of attraction because it's quite natural to feel some sort of attraction to different people. I'm talking about "courting" two people at once......

Let me clarify what I'm tryna say 'cause I can already hear the questions & anger filled comments coming! [rolls eyes].....This is not saying you want to have your cake & eat it too [talking to two folks at once, but making each person feel as if "they are the only one"]....We're all adults guys....In my scenario, everyone knows about everyone else...no secrets.

My opinion:

I look at this situation as DATING.....If you & the person you're talking to have not sat down and made an agreement like,

"Look, I like you...You like me. I see myself being with you and really look forward to getting to know you better, but I don't want to rush into a relationship. HOWEVER, with that being said, I want it to be just a 'you & I' situation...not 'you & I + him/her"

then I feel you're free to do whatever it is you want to do AS LONG AS YOU'RE HONEST! Lying brings nothing but hurt feelings. Others unlike me who tend to catch heavy feelings quickly may feel differently. So I'm asking: Is it trifling or is it just the process of narrowing down your options to determine who's the best match for you??

LEMME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK!!!!!!!!!!

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Platonic or Preposterous

Lazy days + nothing to do = lots and lots of thinking......

This topic has been rattling around in my brain for quite a long time and I'm FINALLY writing about it.

Men vs. Women....Lovers vs. Friends....Homies vs. Cut Buddies.....All of these titles come with positive and negative connotations, but the age old question really is:

Is it really possible for men and women to be STRICTLY friends?????

I'm always reminded of movies like "Brown Sugar" or "Love and Basketball" when I think about this topic. Two friends, one male/one female, going through life together, supporting each other, ignoring the underlying sexual tension and then finally realizing they're meant to be with each other! Granted, Hollywood depictions of these situations are always dramatized or end predictably happy; there are still real life occurrences of this relationship.

This type of relationship is one I've dealt with for as long as I can remember. Ever since I knew men existed, I've had male friends. LOTS of male friends.....[whispers] don't go getting the wrong idea about the type of woman I am......I just, for whatever reason, relate to males better than I do with members of my sex and I think there's nothing wrong with that. Here is my problem, conundrum, issue, query, inquisition WHATEVER YOU WANNA CALL IT:  Is it possible for you to meet someone of the opposite sex, under particular circumstances, and be friends (FRIENDS ONLY) with him/her?

**particular circumstance: You're out & about. A guy (girl) approaches you, compliments you on how you look, etc. Attempts to set up some sort of dating scenario. You meet up with this person, sparks don't fly for EITHER you OR the other person (meaning only one of the two is interested in more). The uninterested person expresses how they feel, yet still thinks the other is cool peeps and wants to keep in touch....**

In other words your initial meeting with individual is one of attraction, but results in just being friends. You converse with this person as you would with any of your other friends (i.e. asking for advice, checking up on them, supporting them with life decisions, being a shoulder, etc), but because of the circumstances under which you met, can you really consider them just a friend???

Real recognize Real....

I had a very interesting conversation with my big brudder today which made me think on a recent event that happened to me and I was inspired!

Question of the day: "Why is it so hard for ADULTS to act as such and be real??"

I, unfortunately, don't have the answer to that. I look at myself as a real individual. Never been fake and don't appreciate when others are fake with me. Regardless of the outcome certain situations bring, good or bad, we should all walk away knowing that "hey, at least I spoke my peace and was 1 hun." I don't have respect for people who are "people pleasers" telling everyone what they think they want to hear instead of speaking their mind. I was raised on this principle: "If you feel some kinda way speak on it" [period]

Now I'm not saying everybody needs to be rude and offer unsolicited opinions, etc...I just mean if someone asks you a question, BE REAL. Don't beat around the bush because in the end, you're not helping bring a resolution to the matter. On the flip side, if you have an issue with someone, instead of being a punk, let that person know. Sitting around being aggravated doesn't stop anyone else's progress but your own. To add to that, don't go around telling other people NOT INVOLVED IN THE SITUATION how you feel, but when it comes time to confront the person you feel some kinda way about, you *bish* up, it's no longer "that big of a deal" and let stuff ride. But just a few days ago, it was dang near the end of the world!    .....that really gets under my skin......

ALSO,

Folks who let others speak FOR them baffles me....How are you in your 20's, 30's, 40's yet have no opinion about anything? [sighs] Let me calm my nerves....*woosha*

With all that being said, the main point I'm trying to make is: Real recognizes Real. I have a very good B.S. detector & have no problem calling folks out. I don't mean any harm and I don't do it to embarrass anyone, but I refuse to associate myself with anyone less than genuine.

Suggestion:

Reevaluate your inner circle...if you know people who ALWAYS seems to

have an issue with somebody else, but come to YOU about it...hmmm..

they may be guilty. If a friend of yours, seems to ALWAYS  know

how to tell you how to fix your problems, but their life is a

mess?? Hmmm....sounds guilty to me! OR if someone you

know is ALWAYS mad about some petty ish, can't seem

to let it go, but still vibes with the person they're

 mad at????????? GUILTY!

#thatisall

Oy vey!

I really don't understand what just happened.....lol Not less than 30 mins after mentioning a name, I get a call & txt from that particular individual!

Lawd, is this a test??? Like for reals......I DISLIKE getting a phone call from someone, who vowed never to speak to me again or at least for quite some time, asking for a favor before even checking on my life. Where they do that at?!? I hate to say that I need to stop being so nice when generosity and kindness is in my nature, but in this instance, I don't think I have any other choice.

It was all good just a week ago.....

It's funny how things can change so quickly. One event in life, one wrong thing said, one wrong choice made that seemed right at the time can flip your whole world upside down.....[inner circle shrinking by the minute]....At the moment, I can't nor do I want to deal with the complication. I'm tempted to wish for the days before I knew you existed, however, without having met you I would have never learned the lessons needed to blossom into the mature woman I am today. You're an awesome friend, but only when you want to be. Sad part about all of this is, I'm quite confident someone will, or HAS, come along to pick up where you decided to leave off..[shrug] Can't say I didn't go hard in the paint for this one, but like a friend of mine tweeted today "Never look back unless you plan to go that way" and as MOST of you know, I'm all about forward movement. With that being said, I'm wiping my hands of this and letting it go.

[like Chris Brown] "DEUCES!!!!"

Welcom Back, Welcome Back, Welcome Back!

"Back in the lab, with a pen & a pad!!".......I swear I'm still alive everyone!! :-) Let's see *taps chin* what's been going on????

I recently had a job working for an architectural firm which was exciting. I finally felt like a grown up again! The work was SUPER easy, but trust and believe the kid didn't complain.....it got me out of the house so I was all for it! And because the work was so easy, I had to time focus on my college app essays (TOTAL WIN!!!) Unfortunately for me, it only lasted 2 wks...sooooooooo now I'm back to where I started. Home. Job hunting.

On another note, I'M A GOD MOMMY AGAIN!!!!! One of my P.I.C.s gave birth to a healthy baby boy Sunday, September 26th, at 12:30 AM!!!!! She's an amazing young lady with a great partner in life to help her raise their little angel. I just hope my other love bug doesn't get too jealous! :-) I look forward to meeting Jabari VERY soon!!!! Loves him already!

Hmmmm.....what else???? OH! Since I am once again unemployed, I was able to take a trip to Atlanta this past weekend. I almost didn't go, but lucky for me I changed my mind! (I totally believe in fate) The Atlanta Classics were taking place, TSU vs. FAMU, and I was looking forward to a repeat of last year's festivities.....visiting with the fam, hitting up the mall, tailgating with the bruhs of Omega Psi Phi, eating good food, having some laughs and PARTY PARTY PARTY!!!! I quickly realized all things aren't meant to go according to plan.....

Another day, Another dollar....

Another Thursday night with nothing to do....story of my life. BUT! At least I have my blog to keep me company, right?? :-/

I don't really have a theme or topic tonight, I just felt like writing! To give you all the scoop on what's been up lately, I'll start with some exciting news first. [drum roll please....] I THINK I'VE DECIDED WHICH GRADUATE SCHOOL I'D LIKE TO ATTEND AND THE PROGRAM THAT'S CAUGHT MY INTEREST!!!!!!!!!

While losing a never ending battle with insomnia last night, I stumbled across an interesting website. It ranks universities across the country from best to worst average and breaks it down according to your program of interest. Lately (especially since starting this blog), I have been crazy interested in Journalism and anything related to the field, so I searched for schools with  Journalism/Mass Communications Masters programs. I definitely want to attend a "boss" university

SN: Do people still say "boss" these days in relation to something or someone being the best of the best????

.............[shrugs]....i digress..........

Like I was saying, I for sure want to attend a boss excellent university, BUT don't want to be too far from home. With that in mind, the school I found which is relatively close to home, yet ranks within the Top 10 best graduate schools for Journalism was THE UNIVERSITY OF GEORGIA (in Athens, GA)!!!

Quite exciting I must say! I've been thinking of relocating to Georgia for quite sometime (particularly the Atlanta area), but Athens may suit me just fine! After I read over the deets I requested in the mail, I just may apply!

Just when I thought it was safe!

	So for the past week, I've been completely MIA! Recovering from my friend's super fun birthday wkend, then my brother and new sister's AWESOME wedding (I'll do another post w pictures of each), but mainly trying to focus on finding a job and also doing more research into graduate schools. Which brings me to today. So I'm sitting in my room minding my own business when I get a text. This particular person claims to be extremely worried about me and my well being and is urgent to speak w me. Unfortunately for them, I was not in a hurry to do the same! :-/ After having what seemed to be an all day "text conversation" I realized more than ever that people really are placed into your life for particular reasons. Although I have yet to pinpoint this individual's reason, the conversation caused me to evaluate a few other relationships I have. As I've stated before I'm currently single which suits me just fine, but if I were to consider dating someone, the prospects I have right now are a little sketchy! (el.O.el.)

Midnight Memoirs

It's 12:21 AM and I'm awake...as always [smile]....Not sure what this Midnight Memoir should be about, but I felt the need to write.

Tonight's dinner was filled with AWESOMELY DELICIOUS sushi!!! The draw back to scarfing down yummy sushi is I feel like such a cow afterwards! Needless to say, I just completed 100 crunches followed by 50 squats accompanied by weights...UGH!!! I feel good, but working out is a pain. As I was working out, and still listening to Wale's More About Nothing, my mind started to wander. Thinking about life at times makes me feel sooooo stagnant. Like I'm stuck with my feet in the mud making no progress. Then I started thinking, "Hmmmm Bree....why is it that progress seems to be passing you by??" I came to the conclusion that I am about to step into my destiny, however, there is still work needed to be done in my current position to prepare me for what's ahead....I recently applied for what I feel is the MOST PERFECT, SPECTACULAR, AMAZING, WONDERIFIC position ever created for  me and have been praying every day since that it comes through for me. I do feel that in order for me to be equipped to perform the duties required, I need to make some changes in my current behaviors to prevent myself from blocking my blessing...feel me?

You ever have one of those days where you just wanted to chill in bed?? No motivation to really do anything?? Ever feel like if you could spend the rest of your life chilling, you'd be in heaven???? Well that's how I've been feeling for the past few weeks and IT SUCKS! Anyone who really knows me, knows I'm a busy little bee. I love to be on the go, around people, having a good time, sharing laughs, etc, etc...and now I just feel like BLAH all the time [shrugs] hmp. Strange...SO! My new goal for the remainder of this year is to, EVERYDAY, do something! Whether I'm employed or not, I am on a mission to get out, see people, volunteer, learn a new skill, develop a hobby, do SOMETHING to keep me occupied. Hopefully this new goal will help keep me focused on PRIORITIES and not foolywang that seems to follow me. I think everyone should do that! Challenge yourself to take risks and do different things out of the norm for your life. Trying new things makes me feel cultured and well-rounded. And it's also fun!!!! If you guys have any interesting hobbies or skills, let me know! Who knows! You just may be my muse ;-)....

LATAS!

Unexpected Hiatus

Sooooooooo yea! I've been gone for quite some time right??? TOTALLY SORRY FOR THE DELAY! Life has been totally bananas lately!

If I haven't already mentioned, my one and only big brother is getting married NEXT SATURDAY  (August 14th) and I have had my plate full helping with last minute wedding plans, bachelorette party fun, and honeymoon arrangements. [whew]!!! Needless to say, my poor blog baby has been neglected!

On top of that, I'm planning a trip to Orlando THIS weekend to visit one of my love bugs for her birthday. [SO EXCITED]!!!!! I've known her for 5 years and she's one of the sweetest people anyone will ever meet! Guess that's a Leo for you ;-)

Sooooo what else has been up with me lately.....hmmm...

T.G.I.F.

Today has, thankfully, started on a positive note! I am FINALLY feeling much, much better (yesterday I felt awful) and I received a call back from one of the 1,000 applications I submitted! If things go well, I'll be working for the Intercontinental Hotel in Buckhead Atlanta at their front desk. Not necessarily my "dream job" but it's one that will allow me to start some place and work my way up to bigger and better things! I'm 23....I have time....right? I'll be sure to keep you posted on how things go!

Oh! An update on my hair! So as I said in my last post, I got my hair done Wednesday. I totally meant to post pics that day or yesterday BUT my beautician braided my hair HELLA tight and I felt like my head was going to SPLIT OPEN!!! [excuse the visual] Because my hair is natural, I hardly EVER do anything with it besides two strand twists and as a result I've become insanely tender headed......so needless to say, yesterday I was in bed, ALL DAY, deciding whether I was going to leave the hair in or take it out! el.O.el It was just that bad. Since my beautician put a weave cap over my braids to help hold them down as the style gets older, I decided last night to cut it in an attempt to loosen the pressure on my poor head. IT WORKED! :-) I feel 100x's better. Tell me what you think! :-)

...Humpday Happenin's...

HAPPY HAPPY HUMPDAY TO ALL!!!! I remember the days when Wednesday used to be my small beacon of light at the end of the work day tunnel. Now.....it's just Wednesday [shrugs]. Soooo what to do, what to do  on this wonderful, sunny, breezy, humid, sticky summer day??? Stay inside with some A.C.! el.O.el     Just kidding.

Since it's summer and, as some of you may know, my hair is natural; I think it's time for a change [said in my best Barack Obama voice]. I'm so in love with my natural tresses that I can't leave them alone! It's seriously borderline obsessed.....So I've decided to get a sew in! I haven't had one since Nov of '09 and have been itching ever since to get another one. My problem is I believe very strongly that I'm low-key A.D.D.! I get bored AND distracted so easily its sickening. One day I'll want hair that touches my butt crack [excuse the visual] and the next I'll wanna look like Halle Berry! Or I'll get a cute sew in or quick weave, absolutely LOVE IT, then a few weeks later start missing my kinky fro....Not too sure if there's a cure for my illness, but hopefully I'll be so in love with this 'do' that I won't want to let it go! ......doubt it.....haha

Here is what I'm hoping it looks like (the long style)

Once it's complete I'll be sure to post pictures either here, on Facebook, or Twitter...maybe all 3 if I'm just feeling myself that much! :-)

*DEUCE.deuce for now!*

Midnight Memoirs

Looking at my cell it is exactly 12:39 AM. I'm awake...eating grilled veggies....watching Deadliest Catch...and reflecting....

Sometimes I feel like my life totally reflects a movie. Like, I'm living in my own "Breezie" version of Sex in the City...THE TRILOGY! But instead of 'Mr. Big,' my antagonist will lovingly be called: 'Hum Di Lah' (I borrowed that name from my cousin el.O.el)...So! This situation really has me thinking...is it for real?? Or should I be on my guard? Hum Di Lah is a man...in every definition of the word! Interesting, manly, funny, spontaneous, supportive, all of those things most SANE women would look for in a man right??? [waiting for a response....]

It's what I'd look for, provided I were sane [looking around hoping everyone other looked that last comment] Annnnnywhoooooo, I have come to discover that the old saying is quite true, "You never know what you have until you don't have it anymore" or something like that. I know I care, I know H.D.L. cares, but when is all this caring going to lead to something?!?!?! I've never been one to hold my tounge when it comes to expressing attraction or interest in a member of the opposite sex, however deep feelings tend to gimme the heebe geebes! Why do things that feel so easy end up being extremely complicated? I'll never get that....I hope H.D.L. feels the same, if not, I NEED TO KNOW IMMEDIATELY!

.....to be continued....

The Start of it all...

Today begins my journey of self discovery....I suppose it would be polite of me to give ya'll a bit of my background to help you understand why I am where I am today.

As with most girls, it all began with a boy :-)....Love is a crazy thing ain't it??? You fall so hard and fast then POW!!!! [insert car crash sound byte here] You're blind sided and it's over...So needless to say, I met a boy, fell in love, moved away, was disappointed, broke up with said boy, and moved back. Get it? [el.O.el.]     So going through a break up, make up, break up again, loss of employment, and all sorts of other random drama has led me to where I am now.....at my parent's home....in my old room...attempting to regroup. ::sighs::
                                 ---------blank stare--------
On the bright side of things, this minor road block in my life has given me lots of time to reflect on things and make some serious decisions.